"The entrance of thy words giveth light (Psalm 119:130)."
Self-Talk
Self-talk is how you talk to yourself, about yourself and about the circumstances of your life.
We all talk to ourselves. This can either be positive and constructive—or very damaging.
In order to benefit from this article, it is necessary to first get saved.
Your words have power—either for good or for evil.
"Death and life are in the power of the tongue . . ." {Proverbs 18:21}
Two examples follow.
Example 1:
- "I can't handle this!" Result: anxiety.
- "I'm not going to get upset about this." Result: more peace.
Example 2:
- "I'm defined by what he says about me." Result: instability.
- "I don't care what he thinks." Result: stability.
Other examples of negative self-talk:
- "This is never going to change."
- "I always mess up."
- "God doesn't love you."
- "You're not good enough."
- "I'm no good."
- "That happened because of me."
- "My parents don't love me."
- "I hate my life."
- "I'm sick and tired of this."
- "I hate my job"
- "This is too hard."
- "I'll never make it."
- "I'm weak."
- "Everybody else has it good."
- "This is terrible."
Many of your negative thoughts originate with a demon, even if they occur in the first person.
How you talk to yourself drastically affects your mood.
Negative self-talk gives power to the devil.
Self-talk and self-control are very much related.
Your attitude toward yourself is very important.
What you say to yourself is much more important than whatever anybody else says about you.
What you think about yourself is much more important than what anybody else thinks about you. This is a choice.
Your thinking must be straightened out FIRST in order for your life to be straightened out.
I want to keep this as simple as possible. So you'll get it and apply it as quickly as possible.
Keep your thoughts positive and constructive, rational and comforting. Correct negative thoughts.
Talk to yourself like you'd like a good friend to counsel you. Or how you would encourage a child you love.
Suggestions follow.
Use healthy affirmations:
- God loves me.
- I love me.
- I don't care what he (she) thinks.
- I don't expect myself to be perfect.
- I forgive myself.
- I can handle this.
- It's no big deal.
- I'm not going to get upset about this.
- I'm not going to give up.
Correct self-critical and other negative thoughts:
- I am not . . .
- Say the opposite.
- Recite Scripture.
- Use affirmations.
Forgive others:
Affirmation: I choose to forgive him (her).
Trust in the power of the Holy Spirit to enable you to forgive. Sometimes you can't forgive in your own strength.
"I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." {Philippians 4:13 NKJV}
Recite Scripture. Some examples:
- "Be anxious for nothing . . ." {Philippians 4:6 NASB}
- "Trust in Him at all times . . ." {Psalm 62:8 NASB}
- "Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid." {John 14:27 NIV}
- " . . . do not worry . . . " {Matthew 6:25 NIV}
- ". . . whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right . . . think about these things." {Philippians 4:8 NASB}
Recite Scripture out loud so the demon can hear. And apply the Scripture to your life.
Use affirmations based on Scripture.
Examples follow.
"Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of His might." {Ephesians 6:10 NASB}
I am 'strong in the Lord.'
"Be anxious for nothing . . ." {Philippians 4:6 NASB}
I choose to 'be anxious for nothing.' {Philippians 4:6}
Believe and apply what you are affirming.
Pay attention to what you're saying to yourself. Adjust your thinking. Adjust your self-talk. Correct negative thoughts.
Resist the devil.
Keep trying.
Do this and you will make progress.
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